I like to think I didn't sound so dorky. But I did. The thing is, I wear my baby. My husband wears our baby. And this petite woman was wearing her baby too! Even better, she had on the coolest coat ever! It was a special one made with extra fabric to cover a baby in a carrier. I thought it was brilliant. And I knew instantly that I would like her. In moments I found out her little guy was just two weeks younger than mine and she lived four blocks away. A match made in heaven! Playdates! BFFs!
We chatted for a bit and I took her number (sounds like the beginning of a beautiful friendship, right?). I texted "M" a few days later, we met at the park, and then went for some food. My intuition was correct -- not only did we have a lot in common, so did our husbands (a bromance if there ever was one).
I love hanging out with new moms. I get it why my single friends are M.I.A. - who wants to hear about baby poop all the time? But with my new momma friends, I can geek out about all things baby related and it's all good. We share information, give advice, brag about our kids, and support each other just by listening.
I am especially grateful I met "M." I love having a friend to walk in the park with and it is so much fun to see our boys interact. She is a bit more "earthy crunchy granola" than some of my other new momma friends and I love the different perspective. We are moving out of the city in a couple of months and I sincerely hope we will keep in touch.
And then there is "R." I met "R" almost 3 years ago. I went to the standby line at the Delacorte Theater in Central Park to see "Hair." Anyone who has done this knows you can either pass the time having a picnic with friends, or, in my case, standing awkwardly alone. "R" was behind me and also waiting solo. We struck up a conversation and did not stop chatting until we got our tickets three hours later. Three years later, we are still friends. She is one of those friends whom I wish I saw more often. She is the friend who, even though we don't talk daily, was at Aiven's bris at 8 AM in spite of it being a workday and probably inconvenient. She also brought over a home-cooked (vegan!) meal during those first few postpartum weeks when I was recovering from a C-section and figuring out the whole mom thing on almost no sleep.
I am very fortunate that I meet such wonderful people in random unexpected places. Just to list a few others: I met the sister duo "D+D" on a jDate trip to Mexico; I met "L" on a PATH train as we were heading to the same wedding in New Jersey; and I met my husband at a bar.
It is so important for new moms to have a support network. Sometimes it means having stick your neck out a little to make new friends. Sometimes it means being a little awkward, goofy, or assertive. You might need to get outside your comfort zone. But as the saying goes, a stranger is just a friend you haven't yet met.